Back in February, I submitted a Private Member’s Motion (a PMM):
‘That this Synod affirm that there are no fundamental objections to being in a committed, faithful, intimate same-sex relationship, and that such a relationship can be entirely compatible with Christian discipleship.’
Any member of Synod can submit a PMM and mine was aimed at ending this very bruising Synod quinquennium with a positive pastoral statement about the invaluable but apparently unvalued contribution of LBGTQIA+ people to the Church. All those PMMs which had reached the threshold of 100 votes have been scheduled at this July Synod, so this morning mine was debated.
Back when I first tabled the motion, there was a certain amount of conservative kerfuffle online. They didn’t like the word ‘intimate’. I observe that we seem to be hung up on ‘intimacy’. We witnessed an example of this during Synod Questions on Friday. Question 14 was from Mrs Anna de Castro (Sheffield) asking the Chair of the Faith and Order Commission: ‘In the context of the Living in Love and Faith process, what meaning has FAOC given to the word “intimate”?’ And the response she was given? That “FAOC has not found it necessary to explore the meaning of intimate and to provide a more technical definition to the word than offered by its common usage.”
Common usage, eh? My first thought was the usage in “an intimate little Italian restaurant”. During a catch-up on the tennis, I saw a mixed doubles match in which the commentator assured us that someone on the other side of the net “knows both players intimately”. And then there’s “intimate care” which is all about toilets and continence.
Yet in these endless debates, some members of Synod seem to think “intimate” is all about bodies and pleasure. If you say “sexually intimate”, maybe that’s a reasonable interpretation. But I didn’t: just look at the words of my motion. That didn’t stop conservatives, both before today and during the debate on the PMM, telling me that I meant it. No. In the supporting paper which I was asked to put in before Synod met, I tried to make this clear; I wrote that “if we reduce intimacy to bodies, and indeed to specific acts of those bodies, we are not doing justice to the depth of our need for trust and closeness. ‘Intimate’ is used in this motion to recognise that deep, devoted, passionate relationships of many kinds exist, and always have existed, and that includes a range of types of physical contact. In a response to another Synod question (July 2023 Synod Q72), the then-Bishop of London helpfully noted that ‘LLF has always tried to recognise that the expression of sexual intimacy between two people cannot be reduced to a small set of defined actions.’”
My motion was deliberately short. Of course “no fundamental objections” was a reference to the 1975 motion which began the journey towards women priests. Looking at my motion, conservatives were complaining that they did have objections. But of course, some people did in 1975 too; and they simply voted against. However, I heard the concern, and in the time between submitting the motion and coming to the debate, several of us worked on trying to address it. Should we spell out the presence in the church of other views? By the time amendments had to be put in, we had come up with an amended form of the motion which we thought addressed this, and more. So that was submitted by Chris Dalliston, the Dean of Peterborough, appearing as item 54 on the agenda:
That this Synod:
(a) affirms that all baptised, believing and faithful persons regardless of sexual orientation are full members of the Body of Christ;
(b) delights in the lives and ministries of LGBTQIA+ people in the Church of England;
(c) recognises a legitimate range of theological perspectives, held in good conscience, across the Church of England, on the right ordering of committed, faithful, intimate same-sex relationships, and;
(d) recognises that this includes views that affirm and views that reject the position that there are no fundamental objections to being in such a relationship and that such a relationship can be entirely compatible with Christian discipleship and ministry.
So, basic pastoral message, plus recognition that there are other views within the C of E.
As I was not able to be in York, the motion was moved by Professor Muriel Robinson, who opened by talking about her friends David and Stuart, who have been together since theological college. In their early stages of ministry there was no problem in accepting their relationship, but as they were increasingly badly treated both left ministry, and one gave up on faith. This is a very sad story, and it is not uncommon. Why does the church do this to people?
The chair of the debate chose to hear at an early stage from proposers of amendments to give us a sense of what they were about. The first of those, item 53, was from the Chair of the House of Laity, Jamie Harrison. It is quite long so I shall just summarise it here. He aimed to remove all the pastoral focus of the original motion, making it instead into a brief statement of where we are now; with the Prayers of Love and Faith permitted in existing services and… ah, that’s the problem. There’s nothing else to put on that list. Because nothing else has happened in the direction of welcoming LGBTQIA+ people in the C of E. So the rest of the motion restated that “sexual intimacy” properly belongs within marriage – which was odd as that moves us into opposite-sex relationships, which were not within the scope of my motion. The amendment also tried to reduce the impact of “no fundamental objections” by claiming that there are also “many” people who aren’t certain what they think, and others who think same-sex relationships “run counter to the message of scripture and the Christian tradition”. It ended by mentioning the new Working Group for which we voted in February (although it hasn’t started meeting yet as so far it has only got a chair; no members).
There were many excellent speeches, including Adam Kendry, an armed forces rep, noting that it is now 26 years since the armed forces got their act together on accepting lesbian and gay people; Anna Norman-Walker, pointing out that the motion was not about liturgy and doctrine, just about the ordinary people in our parishes; Bishop Nick Chamberlain, the only out gay bishop, who as an acting bishop doesn’t have a vote in Synod, pointing out just how bad the times are for LGBTQIA+ people; Graham Kirk-Spriggs, a vicar, on his experience as the only gay person in the room being told “fornicators” won’t inherit the kingdom of God; Martin Auton-Lloyd noted that, in his deanery, there are more clergy in civil partnerships than in marriage. A key theme was how lesbian and gay clergy and lay people ask not for change but simply for recognition of their lives and ministries; as Graham put it, where is he, a lifelong Anglican affirmed? Why is he not included?
There were some rather odd speeches from conservatives, worrying about whether “intimacy” is an ambiguous word (read my supporting paper…); holding up the “is it a duck? is it a rabbit?” optical illusion (don’t ask; but there is an excellent discussion of its use in the debate this morning here); assuming sexual and romantic are the same thing; conjuring up the image of the Church as the Bride of Christ but with a muddy dress (?); and a speech by a traditionalist young woman who is certain that she should not enter a same-sex relationship. That’s, of course, up to her; it doesn’t help those who have found security and growth in such a relationship.
The voting was complicated. When Jamie Harrison’s amendment (item 53) came to the vote, it was defeated. There was a Vote by Houses (meaning that something has to pass in all three of them) which went:
Bishops 17 in favour, 7 against, 6 abstentions
Clergy 78 in favour, 90 against, 4 abstentions
Laity 88 in favour, 93 against, 1 abstention
So it failed in two houses and thus failed overall.
When Chris Dalliston’s amendment (item 54) was voted on, however, it passed in all three houses:
Bishops 12 in favour, 8 against, 8 abstentions
Clergy 100 in favour, 68 against, 4 abstentions
Laity 102 in favour, 76 against, 4 abstentions.
Bearing in mind that this amendment entirely replaced my original short motion, you’d perhaps think that the voting on it would be replicated when we went on to vote on ‘the motion as amended’; after all, this had exactly the same words!
No.
On the final, amended, motion, we voted:
Bishops 11 in favour, 14 against, 4 abstentions
Clergy 93 in favour, 79 against, 0 abstentions
Laity 101 in favour, 83 against, 0 abstentions.
Assuming that there were roughly the same people in the room or on zoom, some of the clergy seem to have decided they were against rather than in favour, but the overall vote result was a pass; however, the bishops changed their votes in a way that led to the motion failing, because of the House of Bishops. This is very baffling and perhaps some time we will find out what was going on.
In the later debate on Trust, Professor Veronica Hope Hailey commented on how very very odd the C of E is, although what she was thinking about were its structures at national and diocesan level alongside its reliance on volunteers at parish level. She observed that it’s not clear who is in charge; bishops claim that they only have soft power but then look at them at a coronation. I’d add, voting by Houses can also show their power. She noted that Synod just goes round in circles; and that’s what we did on my PMM.
The day ended with Bishop Robert Springett updating us on safeguarding. A key comment was that safety depends on a culture that will not abide theology being used for coercive purposes. He also supported mandatory reporting rather than reliance on the Seal of the Confessional; this was pushed back on by Bishop Philip North. There was a question about what counts as spiritual abuse, which as I heard it came rather close to asking for support for conversion practices; about spiritual direction; about why not all Lessons Learned Reviews are published; and about the training which has to be carried out in parishes to help people to volunteer as parish safeguarding officers.
Long day, lots to think about; not least that the bishops suddenly felt unable to support saying that “all baptised, believing and faithful persons regardless of sexual orientation are full members of the Body of Christ”? I am guessing that this is their problem, as I cannot see that they would fail to agree that we have a range of views in the C of E. What message is this sending to those faithful queer people who are clergy and laity – and bishops! – in the C of E?

